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What do we mean by Domestic Abuse?

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We tend to think of violence, but this kind of abusive behaviour can take many forms. It can be defined as any type of controlling, bullying, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship, or after a relationship has ended.




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Both men and women can be abused or abusers. It can include emotional, physical, sexual, and psychological abuse. It can seriously harm children and young people, either through direct physical abuse, or through witnessing the abuse of others.

It rarely happens as a one-off incident. Usually there is a pattern, or cycle, of abuse in which the victim is mistreated. Afterwards, it could be that the victim is made to feel loved until the abuse begins again.



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Abuse can often be about power and control, where the abuser will try to control their partner or another family member using a number of methods:

  • Violence
  • Mind games
  • Verbal abuse
  • Financial control
  • Forced marriage
  • Sexual violence or manipulation

Financial abuse, for instance, can be seen in taking control of bank accounts; keeping track of every penny the other person spends; demanding money.



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What can be done to help? If you are subject to any form of domestic abuse, there are various agencies you can contact:

Dial 999 if an emergency
Freephone 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline:
0808 2000 247
Essex Police
Report Domestic Abuse
Refuge: Refuge provides safe, emergency accommodation and emotional and practical support to women and children experiencing domestic violence.
Victim Support
Safer Places
ChildLine: the UK’s free, 24-hour confidential helpline for children and young people who need to talk.
Helpline: 0800 1111
National Centre for Domestic Violence
Freephone 0800 970 2070
Text: “NCDV” to 60777
Women’s Aid: If you need information or support, you can go to the Women’s Aid site to find details of local domestic violence services or read the Survivor’s Handbook which provides practical support and information for women experiencing domestic violence.
The Hideout: a website created by Women’s Aid to help children and young people to understand domestic abuse and how to take positive action if it’s happening to them.
Free Helpline: 0808 800 5000
Text: 88858
Broken Rainbow UK: Broken Rainbow UK runs a national lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans (LGBT) domestic violence helpline providing confidential support to all members of the LGBT community, their families, friends and agencies supporting them. Call 0300 999 5428; the line is open Monday through Thursday 10am–5pm, with extended hours on Monday and Thursday until 8pm. You can also email: help@brokenrainbow.org.uk
The ManKind Initiative: Support for male victims of domestic abuse and domestic violence.
Helpline: 01823 334244
Respect Phoneline: provides confidential information and advice for anyone concerned about their violence and/or abuse towards a partner or ex-partner.
Phoneline: 0808 802 4040
Email: info@respectphonline.org.uk
Essex Change: is a community based domestic violence intervention programme for men who want to end their violent or abusive behaviour towards a partner or ex-partner. They also run a women’s service which aims to increase the safety of women and children by offering support and safety planning.
E-mail: admin@essexchange.org
Phone: 01245 258680 ext 223 or 077872541982
08450 177668 (Braintree, Chelmsford, Harlow, Epping, Uttlesford, Southend)
01268 581591 (Basildon, Brentwood, Rochford, Castlepoint)
01206 500585 (Colchester & Tendring)
Male drop-in tel: 01702 343868
Children and Families tel: 01702 343868
Helpline: 01702 300006 (24-hour crisis line)
Phone: 01702 302333
Are you worried about committing domestic abuse yourself?
Phone perpetrator service: 0845 372 7701